Loss can take many forms, as well as a Pennsylvania photographer Meg Brock is helping the world understand what it feels like when a family loses a child. Kristin and Dan Naylor were planning to write Brock a new baby in the summer of 2018. But instead of being invited to prepare for her part with baby Abby, Brock said she saw a social media message from Kristin, carrying her baby who was born dead at 39 weeks.
“I can’t imagine how it would feel to go through an unexpected and massive loss while you were expecting so much fun,” Brock wrote in his blog, which we first learned through PopSugar.
A former ICU nurse, Brock continued to marvel at how Kristin helped to share her “sad journey” online. Finally, Brock decided to visit to see if the family would allow him to take pictures of them. As we can see, they said yes.
Some of these images are brutally destructive: Kristin standing in Abby’s unfinished nursery, holding her large black and white photo; cute baby clothes not worn on the mat; the eldest son cries in Kristin’s arms.
But some point out that the Naylor family is moving forward with their lives, since people with small children have no choice but to do so.
This does not mean that they will never forget their loss. He planted a tree in memory of Abby. Kristin created a special book for the boys to teach them about their sister. He also has Molly Bear, a special polar bear that weighs almost the weight of an infant.
“I have heard from many families who have lost loved ones that photographs of families are difficult,” Brock wrote. “How do you take a picture of your family when one of them is missing? Molly Bear is a way to remember Abby in the picture. “
“Grief is a normal part of life; even several times when it affects the baby, ”said Brock. “I hope that as a team we can be smarter by recognizing and discussing grief.”
[This story was originally published November 04, 2019.]